Friday, April 23, 2021

Live in the moment or wait for a better tomorrow?


       Happiness is momentary like a life of a candle, somebody lights up a day for you and you are bright and you just can’t keep dreaming that you can be lite up and keep glowing forever. When the candle expects to be out there wanting to watch the whole world and letting the whole world look back, it should be ready to face the wind, the rain water drops even though it knows they are capable of switching of its light but that is what life is all about. You have no third option -its either "take risk try your luck, face challenges" or "stay inside the closed room and be safe until you melt down completely”.


    With these thoughts in mind Daina sat in front of the Jesus with the candle in her hand, now her eyes were filled with tears. Suddenly she looked up to ask the God. Please tell me -What should I be? A candle which wants to be out there or the one which feels safe and calm inside the closed walls? Suddenly she broke and tears flowed down her cheeks and few drops traced the eye lashes, her long curvy nose and finally landed on the burning flame of the candle. All this happened even before she could open her eyes to see that the candle light went off.

     She stood there shocked wondering!! Suddenly from the corner of her eyes she noticed a light approach her, a candle which light up her candle and she heard the voice of her friend saying “Don’t be afraid of darkness, because until you experience darkness you never know what having brightness and light around us feels like and we would have never thanked god for giving us light”

    That kept her thinking further and the next minute she saw a image of herself in the reflection of the window pane as she walked through “If you are afraid to go out there thinking the candle light will be blown of due to wind and rain, what just happened in a closed room also has a capability to switch it off. If not by external interference, something like what happened here now we might end up being the own reason for the darkness around us. It just depends on how well you are equipped and covered around to save the flame and spark from wind, rain and any other external interference how strong and immune you are. Go out see the whole world and let the world watch you by going beyond this 4 side closed walls. You are not the only one out there who fear about darkness. So just go live your life, learn to take risk just go with the wind and make sure you are equipped to avoid the wind from blowing away you light. Don't worry about the flame going off, there are so many candle out there which will definitely light you up. But make sure you aren’t out there beyond a limit after which you have no friends, family and others , don’t go too far and leave the rest behind. 



Stay in touch with your roots so that at the times of the last few moments you can still hope to stay light up for few more moments because the previously melted wax can re act as a source for the flame. All that I would like to finally tell you is don’t keep waiting for that brightest moment. The fact that you want brightest moments means that will be followed by not so bright or darker moments. With so many just bright candles around you, your surroundings will be brighter. Just make sure that when one other candle around you is switching off, just stay closer all that the other candle need is some warmth and assure the other candle you are there to light it up if something happens. Don’t let your self or the other candle stay off for too long. After a while even other candles will have a tough time to locate you, for now that you have been off for too long and invisible for too long to even remember you were once there among them”.







     Happiness is what we define. We are happy if we do not come across anything that would make us sad. We are happy when people recognize us for our talent and accept us for what we are than define us based on what we cant be. And now that you are happy and you want the rest of your life to be as happy as you are now, some where in the corner of your mind you start fearing “what if this happy moments are not forever?”, “what if, what I have today is not there anymore for tomorrow or few days from now?”, “what if I won’t be able to handle the sudden absence of the reason for which I am now happy, what will I do when I am left with nothing to be happy about?” and a lot many more “What if’s!!” And instead of enjoying the happiness of today we think too ahead of that probable sad day and start loosing out the current moments of happiness. In a way good that you start accepting the fact that what we have today is not permanent, it just cannot remain for ever and its not always people accept you for what you are. But why lose out on today’s lovely moments..? If you really love being happy the way you are continue being happy, that makes you happier and you reach a stage where you just cant let go of things that you are happy about. Just wish from your heart -  

 "When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it!".


P.S: Candle light is one of my favorite topic and I’ve been trying to write a post on this topic but now after 3 years - I have finally come up with a right one I feel. I think this post makes justice for not posting for a long time and keeping away from here. 


Streams of Thought!!


With a 3 consecutive holidays & a break for my CAT weekend classes i as usually woke up in the morning telling bye to my parents who were on their way to my native,came out of my room looking at myself in the mirror.thinking what does it reflect?seeing an image of myself, that image which i show to the world ....staring at it thinking how much ive changed from the way i was in my school days,the way i was a pet student to my teachers,the way i actively participated in all that i can like sports,music ,drama and dance competition,the way i was famous for being the only National level NTS scholar from my school....then coming back to the present life comparing myself & wondering about it. I stop for a few minutes meditating what to do... switched on my comp & sat glued in front of my computer chatting,taking quizzes on facebook( which i tend to call stupid but at times turns out to be stress reliever after really horrible incidents in this really terrible world outside..)..then entered on youtube typing in the words like "friends", "life ", "memories"and when the other words just followed itself chose the lines which suited my mood for that moment... there i found a video which made me really emotional and helped me let my tears out, which was held back since a few days time for now...which was VITAMIN C "FRIENDS FOREVER"....Memories flash back.With each passing day, seconds have turned into minutes, minutes into hours, hours into days, days into months & months into years.... All I could think of was the last 3years of my life. I sit totally benumbed with my gaze affixed on the snaps we friends had taken,which we had considered as the most jobless thing we were doing when ever we hanged out and we never knew how much it means when we sit back and watch them at times like this...


The first day when i entered the college with all the enthusiasm ,dreaming big ,expecting few seniors to rag me ,to make friends ..and telling myself see there a group of people ,may be they are your classmates go speak,say hi,make friends..thats when i ended up saying a big Hi to a girl waving my hand and smiling with all 32 teeths open & ended up being laughed at,:( all that i could think then about her was "how rude?".LOL...but now all that i say and be is with her, who makes me feel like im the world. :) Gradually all the only 10 girls were friends who carried different dreams with an image of their own.& somewhere around mid 2nd year guys were also friends and there was a big naughty monkey gang of our own by the end of 2nd year.. we as a group started hanging out for treks, trips, movies, eat-outs,& not to forget our college C bench,nescafe & parking lots and the celebrations of Holi , ethnic day , utsav, Birthdays (and not to forget the stay overs :) ),..  moments like playing lagoori ,cricket, basket ball,  badminton ,dumb charades, a play on stage, singing ,dancing , pulling each others legs & seeing those few little hurt hearts cry..& what not..But never knew we would end up being this close by the end of 3 years ,that we cant imagine a life with out seeing each other everyday like the way we see now.We never thought of a bad days in our lives ,must say never ever thought we would come across one either!but experienced a few of them also ,well but life still moves on & we should learn from the bad experiences to become a better person who can challenge a tougher tomorrow.And thats when u get to realize who your true friends are and the back biters..


Convincing myself i started posing few questions at myself "Life...What is it? An everchanging metamorphosis of existence?"
" Who am I in reality? People around me categorizes me in the shackles of different tags... but I do not want such designations and identifications... I am what I believe I am...", how should i deal about my emotions ,when im expected to stay clam and focused & many more which were left un-answered.


My life is on the verge of completing 21 years... 21 years of happiness, sorrows, goals ,ambitions, crushes , disappointments , pain, afflictions, hatred, paradoxes and dissatisfaction.
The horizon of dreams is distant but in focus.....perhaps my life is too blurred to realize them... maybe I am too ignorant... probably I don't even want to realize those dreams... Indeed!I'm not even trying to realize them... but everything around me is undergoing metamorphosis.All that I can say myself is "I MUST CHANGE"... I need to recognize my passion , I need to work towards it. If not now, never again will I get another chance.. BUT WILL I BE ABLE TO?.. this still remains a question..........

I(I)M HAPPY AGAIN!! :)


Life seems to be too good, once we start dreaming about things we always wanted! And we start falling in love with our lives exactly when just the same things are actually happening …well by now u guys will be knowing what I am all up to & what made me write this blog, rather start writing a blog .. you are right I am happy and i really mean it! I seriously cant stop smiling for the same!! :)
May be I sound out of place and acting like ive got high, like my friends always say......i can get high just on air,no need of vodka ya wisky or blablabla,but guys trust me I am actually more than just high ,& i guess my brain is out of its place, I am dancing, singing & not to forget to mention again "im smiling":) !!!like my fav dialogue from friends {“MONICA: I cant stop smiling :) ,RACHEAL: I can see that,feels like u have slept with an hanger in ur mouth all night!!}
Well lets come to the point putting the big full stop to the hype Ive written all this time. Before I start I’d like to request all professionals and philosophers to excuse coz im sure you ppl are gonna laugh at my story and analyse it the way just in an entirely different view point and spoil my temporary happiness…. so plz excuse!!:)
“What made me soo happy?” is ur question and here goes the story… hcha kinda feeling Goosebumps…well but still I need to continue.. I met THAT “GUY”.. rather “that perfect guy” who made me feel nice, I don’t care whether Il see him again or not, but I just met him and spent an hour speaking to him,what more???? hang on its just not that… this guy is all set to join his new gr8 home… Confused ??? lol not the permanent house,,,, It’s the IIM…Yeah guys its IIM B. He got a call from 4 IIM’s and has cleared all of them and gonna join his classes from tomorrow …doesn’t that sound amazing.. he gave me all those strategies to see that il clear them all too… and the best part was the encouragement he gave me to see that il do it, and the spirit he filled in me that I can do it.. haa this is what is making me feel more nice.. yes I can do it, and I want to do it.. After all its in my hands, its my life.. What if the fees is as high as 11 lakhs,and my parents cant afford it, I can take a loan and repay them back (like one of my best buddy suggested)… now I am sure of what I want to do.. where I want to be.. haa wow, writing is such a nice feeling.. & I just realized!! I would surely write regularly on my blogs to let all that i feel ,out of me.Thanks to that particular person who gave me an encouragement to start writing one,and an idea to write today…well guys I know what ul be thinking,,& u r right!! im still high and I cant stop smiling!! :) cya soon with more blogs…









PS: comments are open from professionals and philosophers too if they actually read it!!:) &by the way I think id like to meet dat guy again atleast to say thanks for making this big difference in my life!;)


Shoppoholic???ya may be...



                             
                                 
        “Hey guess what?? I went shopping today, I Bought 3 tops, 2 jeans” & the next Sunday evening again “hey u know what, I bought 4 kurtha’s  6 salwar kameez & a pair of boots, the one which  makes tic-toc tic-toc sounds & I loved them all” hehehe chill don be excited coz u guessed who says it(well u may think i'm excited ;) :P ) .Well u'l never get a prize for guessing who says this all the time,coz this is always the tone when I shop !!
          
          Well I donno what gets me high when I go shopping, If i like something I want that to be mine for ever,be it shoes ,jeans, tops, salwar ,a hand bag ,… the list is just endless. Sometimes even if I don really need them I buy them, whether I use them or not it should be mine.The very feeling that the things I liked is mine gets me high .There were times when I din like things much and was in confusion deciding whether to buy it or not, but i still bought when I realized the person next to me is buying thinking it was amazing and I jump into it saying "sorry Ive  already selected it"with a smile on my face,as if I owned a world by buying it....what goes behind my thought at that moment is still unanswered.. there were times I really felt guilty for buying stuffs which I really din need neither do I know when & where to use them.. still lying in my wardrobe like a discarded object. What gets me so excited about shopping??? GOD knows…
          
          The paradox in my life is when it comes to things that are not shop-able.Why do I just let it go??,even if it is supposed to be meant for me( not sure). Is that because I’m scared ?or is that because I’m not ready to accept it ? Or is that coz I don want it just because I feel it wouldn work out?? Should I even care about it? finally i feel i don have to care about it..By the way im not all that worried about my craze for shopping ,coz as of now its not out of control,i just felt like writing another entry to my blog & that was triggered by the movie i just watched "Confessions of a Shoppoholic"
Anyways its festive season so HAPPY SHOPPING!!


 PS:Hey don u forget that Im always there to accompany ,when u wanna go out for shopping.. do call me even if u just feel like going out for a window shopping?ok?

Worth the wait




Only I know how much my heart raced
The pace at which things were happening, I was amazed
When the 72 days count down changed to 12 days
When the 72 hours further dipped to 45 hours.
Earlier the wait of 3 months and another 6, seemed so long..
Followed by a rapid mysterious 1 month which brought us together and made the bond so strong..

There he stood in front of me..
After 309 days and 12 hours, we meet to see
And uncover the miracle that bought us together
While looking for the vibe and the assurance if this relationship, would get stronger

His first wave at me from the distance
His first gaze at me, with the world around being in silence
Our first touch with the rose petals lying on our palms
Our first prayer together with our slightly touching arms
The first smile to exchange the feeling of comfort
Got framed in my mind like a photographic memory, without an effort

As time passed I was speechless with my mind in zen
While he kept trying to make me smile, time and again
I questioned him, about his true intent
He assured me with the story that made me smile, as a symbol of my consent
While I wondered, what have I done to earn this gift of my life
He comes closer to hug and kiss me on my forehead, asking me to be his wife

This moment, this very moment, for which I had waited 30 years
Lasted only a minute, before I left to work smiling with my eyes full of tears.


PS: He's my beautiful breeze for life..  Mr. Pavan is his name.